Since Halloween recently passed, and this month is Fight The New Drug’s yearly “No Porn November” challenge, I thought it was appropriate to write this post. Discussing pornography is always avoided because it’s such a hot topic. Many people are okay with pornography, many people are not. You never know who is on what side of porn. This is a topic I felt obligated to write about, as the issue of domestic violence and the issue of pornography are often discussed on this blog. The connection between porn consumption and domestic violence isn’t only scary, it’s real life.
One study found that on popular porn websites, “more than 1 in every 3 porn videos depicts sexual violence or aggression.” “A common feature of contemporary porn videos is painful anal penetration as well as brutal gang rape and men slapping or choking women or pulling their hair while they penetrate them orally, vaginally, and anally,” writes Walter DeKeseredy, Ph.D., and Rus Ervin Funk, MSW, CSE.
It isn’t only pornography that normalizes these things. Let’s not forget the series, Fifty Shades of Grey, which pushed the idea that women can change an abusive partner. That’s not a realistic view for women. This never happens. The majority of music pushes the normalization of rape or abuse of women. The issue doesn’t only lie with pornography, although it is a larger part of the problem.
If we don’t stand up for the next generation, then who will?